About a week or 2 ago, a friend on FB posted this somewhat unsettling link to a certain blog that contained pix of young (*Chinese Malaysian*) girls, not necessarily nude but definitely some were in compromising poses. She was very unhappy with it and had done her part in reporting it to some government parental organization watch in Malaysia. In her status, she was informing parents about educating their kids about privacy issues as well as posting such personal pix online is a big no-no. Today, the shit has hit the fan and I am totally devastated to read that the admins behind the blog belonged to a rather prominent and professional blogger. I know as I used to read him every now and then. I will not be mentioning names or linking up any blog or post. But I just want to share my 2 cents.
As a parent, I realise now in this day and age, how important it is that we watch what our kids do online, be it just playing games, FB (why are young kids being allowed FB???) or worst still cruising the net freely watching videos and such. Yes, we have to keep up to date with technology lest we get left behind but that doesn’t mean you do not monitor what is going on WHILE they are on there. There are lots of security measures that can be taken but what works best is you being there watching them.
That said, I also know it is impossible to stop your kids from posting pix of themselves online especially when they are kids and know nothing better than take stupid duckface pouts in skimpy wear in their room (in private which makes it a million times worst coz they think you dont know what they are up to!) or in the school toilet (even ADULTS do this!!). Heck, even nude pix between lovers sometimes get sent to the wrong person and all hell breaks loose. You cannot ALWAYS watch them but you can EDUCATE them to the dangers of the internet and what it can do to them in the future.
I personally do not like to see kids wearing bikinis and their parents posting pix of their kids in them and saying how cute they look. Yes, they may look cute and all that but one needs to know that there are many, many sick people out there that are probably jerking off to an innocent pix of your 2 year old baby girl in her cute little 2 piece unicorn bikini while a handful of other comments how cute she looks, because in reality she does. This is also the reason why I do not dress my kids up scantily. The occasional spaghetti strap yes, but no exposed midriffs or short skirts that end up below the chest. Why? Because there are sick, sick people out there!! Heck, there’s even a creepy looking old man that sits outside on his porch most times I go get my kid from preschool….and his porch is facing the preschool lawn – I’m not happy about it as I’ve seen him sitting out there many times, just looking and watching. He may be innocent, yes…I may be paranoid but heck, I have every right to feel insecure if I see something I dont like. So why risk it??
I’ve even seen friends on my list posting their modeled shots that appear on my feed every now and then and unfortunately, as professionally done as it was, it looked more like something what should be in a dirty mag than on FB, on MY feed. Yes, I’ve stopped that, thank goodness! To be absolutely honest, there is nothing safe about the internet. You want to post pix of your kids – then be prepared for someone who may misuse them. It can happen and it normally does.
Wanna be safe? Then EDUCATE yourself and your kids. No use crying over spilt milk. And it may well be nothing now, but like karma, they always come back and bite you when you least expect it.