Got it off an email but I forgot from whom. Sowwy….but this is pretty good stuff!
Following is a ten point practical advise for the house holder to make the home a happy home by developing understanding for others (not with the mind but with the heart):-
1. Avoid the next quarrel:
Never lose temper at the same time. Don’t let the sun set on your quarrels (Never prolong fights if at all started). It is OK to say “I am sorry” to your spouse.
2. Do not expect perfection from your spouse:
Marriage is coming together of two imperfect beings. Don’t expect wife or husband to be like this or that, accept them as they are.
3. Be a Good Listener:
Don’t interrupt your spouse when he/she is speaking. Think before speaking, it is a good idea to weigh before you speak. You are master of unspoken words but slave of spoken words. Better than listening from ear is listening through mind (with attention) and better than that is listening from heart.
4. Be a good forgiver:
Some people forgive but they keep the memory alive or they forgive conditionally. Forgiveness should be complete and unconditional.
5. Grow in the spirit of humility:
Be humble. Egos bring arrogance which divide and separate people.
6. Learn the art of appreciation:
We all like to be appreciated. Not being appreciated by the spouses is one of the biggest complaint. Always appreciate in front of others. Never criticize your spouse in a company of friends and relatives, you will get opportunities in privacy.
7. Do not argue:
Winning love and friendship is far greater than winning an argument. It is OK to discuss with a open mind. Learn to win love and affection rather than arguments.
8. Develop a healthy sense of humor:
Learn to laugh and be cheerful. It is a great tonic for healthy living and being accepted by friends. It is important to laugh with others and NOT at others.
9. Always lend a helpful hand:
You will win over if you have this attitude of offering a helpful hand with or without asking.
10. Bring GOD back into your home:
This is one of the most important one. Have a common time for prayers. It brings families together. Families that pray together stays together.
I wrote a poem yesterday and then I forgot to bring my thumb drive! Haiz…..
by Jemima, on May 25 2007 @ 9:37 am
Good points. There’s no home like a happy home - filled with love & care. :love: :love:
Have a blessed weekend, dear. :rose:
by may, on May 25 2007 @ 11:56 am
so we get to read your poem tomorrow instead, yea? *waits*
by JoeC, on May 25 2007 @ 2:05 pm
Yes, if we submit to Him then we too must submit to each other. Praise Him for He is good. Cheers!
by Yvy, on May 25 2007 @ 2:16 pm
JoeC : :love: Correct!
May : Eerrrmm…yes? It’s nothing fantastic, just something words throw in together! lol Now I pressure pulak…. :worried
by Yvy, on May 25 2007 @ 2:17 pm
Jem : Yup! :hug: Have a blessed one too….
by cindy, on May 25 2007 @ 5:02 pm
Some of those points are a bit hard for me to follow..
but they’re good, really good.
Thanks for sharing.
by Dabido (Teflon), on May 25 2007 @ 9:10 pm
‘1. Avoid the next quarrel:’
But, I was looking forward to it!
‘2. Do not expect perfection from your spouse:’
But, I expect them to be perfectly human, which means imperfections. To not be perfectly human is to be perfect! Waaah! That’s so unfair!
‘3. Be a Good Listener:’
What? Oh, don’t worry telling me again, look what’s on TV, a dog balancing a ball on it’s nose wahahaha! look at the dog! Wahahahaa! He’s so cute.
‘4. Be a good forgiver:’
Only if they forgive me for not fogiving them!
‘5. Grow in the spirit of humility:’
Humidty? It’s not that hot and soggy! What was point number three again?
‘6. Learn the art of appreciation:’
I really appreciate how good I am to everyone! They better be as appreciative as me!
‘7. Do not argue:’
You’re just saying that to start an arguement, aren’t you?!!!
‘8. Develop a healthy sense of humor:’
Remember that I time I dropped an anvil on your head and you got hospitalised! Wahahahaha! That was funny, wasn’t it? You do remember … don’t you? I’m so funny!
‘9. Always lend a helpful hand:’
You want me to do the washing up? Ptttth, I’ll buy you a dishwasher. Tell me once you’ve got it installed!
‘10. Bring GOD back into your home:’
OMG! No sex? What did I do wrong this time? Tell me, oh please G** tell me!
[NOTE: G word was ** out as it's blasphemous to use it like that where I come from ... but for the sake of a good joke ... OMGoodness, I broke character with this note! Naughty Dabido!]
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Lots os smileys so people know I was joking! 
There, I guess that means I pass the SNAG test! Come get me women … what was point three again?
by Yvy, on May 25 2007 @ 11:17 pm
OMG!! Dabs…is that you??? For a moment there I thought it was Ted!! Lol You know what his fav line is….? ‘I’m so funny!’ :nailbiting: Do all Aussie men think alike???? :hypnotized: :hypnotized:
by Dabido (Teflon), on May 26 2007 @ 9:08 pm
Yvy - Only us funny ones say that!
by Mama BoK, on May 28 2007 @ 5:55 am
Definitey good advice.. Yvy..!! now the hard part is to follow them..